Is it true that when girls say they want a guy who's nice, they actually mean it? They don't want douchebags?

I've long adhered to the conventional wisdom that ';if a girl says she wants a nice guy, she REALLY wants a jerk!';





But now I'm starting to think...what if I went back to being attentive and supportive? I'm not clingy, but maybe I shouldn't be so detached, and willing to run away every time a girl gets upset.





Do you think such a strategy is good?


Or are females really meaning the opposite of what they say?Is it true that when girls say they want a guy who's nice, they actually mean it? They don't want douchebags?
How do you define nice?





For example, nice does not mean:





- being shy or having low self-esteem


- being boring


- being a pushover


- putting her needs above your own; you're her *partner*, not her doormat





Nice does mean:





- treating her like a regular human being, nothing more or less


- not mistreating her or ';using'; her in any way


- respecting her wishes and expecting her to respect yours


- having passionate arguments or debates with her; women love passion


- maintaining your own life apart from hers, which keeps the ';spark'; alive and well





Women like several things in men: confidence, excitement, fun, spontaneity, passion, independence, and so on. Some men seem to think that you can only be arrogant or shy, not confident, or that you can only be boring or reckless, and not fun. Not true, my friend. Look at what they're actually after, and realize that it's different than how ';nice'; and ';jerk'; are usually defined.Is it true that when girls say they want a guy who's nice, they actually mean it? They don't want douchebags?
Ok a lot of girls really do want nice guys because their tired of being hurt by the bad boys, but in reality when we snag a good one half of us don't want them. Persoanlly, when I find nice men they drive me away by being overly clingy, pocessive, jealous and to sissy. I love a man showing their soft side, but not when it's so bad I feel like the man in the relationship. You should never change the person you are because of how it affects the women you can get, regardless you will find someone one day and everything will work out for you. A lot of younger girls are still immature about the whole nice boy/bad boy thing, but when they start maturing and wisen up it's the nice men they all come running to.
NO WAY!


Girls actually want a nice guy, not a jerk.





And your strategy sounds perfect. Just be less detached, be there for the girl more, more sensitive to her emotions.





I think I can say for the majority of the female species that we DO really want nice guys. However, with that being said, a small percentage do want guys who are kind of jerks. But be nice - the nice ones are so much more attractive!
I don't know who came up with that..that we mean the opposite of what we say.


If I say I want an orange..I want an orange..not a carrot.


When I say I want a nice guy..I want a nice guy. I don't want some jerk.
Yes they do mean it. Nice guys shouldn't be overly nice though and turn out to be pushovers.
Here's the truth.





When some girls say that they want nice guys, they aren't kidding. Sometimes these girls start dating a guy thinking they're nice, blinded by infatuation. Eventually, this guy is probably going to lose her once she sees his true colors, or her friends get fed up with him (or family). Or maybe she marries him, and they have five kids and get divorced later.





Sometimes, a girl says that they like nice guys and they believe it. But they secretly fall for the jerks. Maybe it's that they're-wild-and-I'm-going-to-tame-them appeal. I haven't a clue.





Other girls also mean it. They have an attraction to nice guys, genuinely nice fellows. They just either can't find any or are afraid of being rejected.





Still others have an odd definition of ';nice';. To them, nice means, ';treats me like a queen'; or just ';likes me';.





You can't generalize all girls who like ';nice guys'; as liking jerks secretly, because you aren't taking in the different meanings of nice, or the fact that every girl is different. I've seen guys looking for nice girls and going out with total... well, you know the type. Cheating, flirty, gossipy girls who only care about themselves.